"You Are More Than You Think You Are."
“We can either watch life from the sidelines, or actively participate…Either we let self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy prevent us from realizing our potential, or embrace the fact that when we turn our attention away from ourselves, our potential is limitless.”
- Christopher Reeve
Feel well, think well, get well
When you believe yourself, you have the golden key to the door of your health and well being.
Believing in yourself is your unshakable certainty in yourself that you can do anything that you put your heart, mind and soul to. When you believe in yourself you do not have to rely on anyone else’s opinions or try and overwhelm yourself to meet someone else’s expectations. Believing in yourself is going to the core of who you really are, your soul, and believing in the deepest parts of you to guide you when you are scared, challenged, overwhelmed, doubtful, etc.
Your value is the product of your thoughts. Do not miscalculate your self worth by multiplying your insecurities. - Dodinsky
Bruce Lipton travels the world teaching the principles of his book The Biology of Belief. One of those principles is that new neural pathways are created in your brain when you shift old emotional patterns. This is also what happens when you learn something new, or when you engage in a creative activity. You create new patterns in your day, in your body, and in your spirit. That sounds pretty lofty, I know. But it’s true.
What do you need to let go of today?
What is preventing you from letting it go?
Where do your believes come from?
- Have you ever wondered why you believe what you believe?
- Have you ever considered where your beliefs came from?
- Was it an intentional process?
- Did you embrace those beliefs consciously or did you just wake up one day and there they were; curiously stuck inside your head?
- Do you ever question them?
- Are you even aware of them, or do they exist independent of your conscious self?
- Did you intentionally choose them?
- Did you learn them via your experiences?
- Did you adopt them from someone that you respect and trust?
- Or perhaps they where implemented in you by an authority figure somewhere in your past?
- Do your current beliefs propel you towards greatness or do they keep you trapped in mediocrity, monotony and misery?
- Do they serve you, or do you serve them?
- Who’s really running the show?
Achievements vs Under - Achievements
Do your beliefs help you achieve your dreams and goals, or do they keep you in your own private mental and emotional prison?
- Do they enable you to explore your potential and do amazing, or do they keep you in your safe, familiar, predictable little box?
- Do they help you see things clearly and objectively, or do they predispose you to looking at the world through a very small window?
- Are your beliefs flexible and subject to change depending on your experiences and your life lessons?
- Or are they set in stone?
- Do you determine them, or do they determine you?
What is if your beliefs are not true?
- Have you ever thought about living your life with a different set of beliefs?
- Have you ever considered the possibility that perhaps some of your life-long, firmly-entrenched, non-negotiable beliefs… could be completely wrong?
- May even be the very things that have caused you to inhabit an existence that you don’t enjoy?
- Does it make you uncomfortable to consider the possibility of having to completely change the way you think and believe about certain things in your world?
What is the difference between healthy and unhealthy beliefs, and positive or negative beliefs?
This process is referred to as healthy thinking and not positive thinking.
The biggest difference has to do with the factual aspects of the belief.
Unhealthy - I will be dead within two years regardless.
Positive - I will be alive and healthy two years from now.
Healthy - I can be alive two years from now and what I do makes a big difference.
Positive thinking is healthier than negative, unhealthy thinking. However, positive thinking does not necessarily align itself with the facts of nature or with real life. The goal is to be in harmony with nature, and therefore the beliefs must be factual.
It is important to identify if your thoughts/beliefs and the resulting feelings are healthy or unhealthy. To determine this, you will need to honestly answer the following 5 questions developed by Maxie C. Maultsby, MD.
- Are your thoughts/beliefs based on fact?
- Do your thoughts/beliefs help to protect your life and your health?
- Do your thoughts/beliefs help you reach your short and long-term goals?
- Do your thoughts/beliefs help you avoid your most undesirable conflicts?
- Do your thoughts/beliefs make you feel the way you want to feel?
If you answered "no" to any three of these questions, your beliefs/thoughts are considered unhealthy and needs to be changed.
You don't need to wait until you are forced by illness to ask yourself the following questions and decide where you would like to start.
- Are you aware of what drains your energy?
- How many things are you putting up with. Make a list. Are there more than 10, more than 20, more than 50? Over a few days, most people can come up with 100 things when they first do this.
- What choices are you making in relation to how you use your time and who you spend time with? Do these choices reflect your priorities?
- Does your environment remind you of what you feel most passionate about, or is it full of things you used to be interested in?
- Do you have at least one room in your home that feels inspiring to you, so inspiring that you can't wait to be in there?
- When you stand at your front door looking in, do you feel relaxed and welcomed home? Does it bring you a sense of peace, or do you feel bogged down?
- Does your clothing make you feel great? Do you get compliments on how great you look?
Here is a list of common limiting beliefs (and how they can be transformed into positive statement)
- I’m not good enough
- I don’t have what it takes
- I need more confidence
- I can’t get them to like me
- No one will help me
- I’m not perfect enough
- I’m a failure
- I can’t succeed
- I don’t know how
- "I can't do it" "It's impossible" - All things are possible and I do the best I can. I will ask for help if I need it.
- "I'm too tired" - I will slow down and rest when I need it to gain new strength. I will delegate some of my responsibilities.
- "Nobody really loves me" - I love myself and I’m loved by many people.
- "I can't go on" - My grace is sufficient to find the strength I need to overcome the challenge.
- "I can't figure things out" - I will discover new steps. I can do all things where I put my heart and soul into.
- "I'm not able" - I am able. I have a full well of skills and talents to find creative solutions.
- "It's not worth it" - It always is worth to continue my journey and to try out new things.
- "I can't forgive myself" - I forgive myself for past mistakes
- "I can't manage" - I will find the supply for all my needs
- "I'm afraid" - I have enough courage to overcome … I'm safe.
- "I'm always worried and frustrated" - I will not worry about the things I can not change and will take action when I can change a situation in my life.
- A nice person is always smiling - It is alright to express my grief or sadness.
- "I don't have enough faith" - I've plenty of faith to overcome the obstacles in my life.
- "I'm not smart enough" - I have wisdom
- "I feel all alone" - I will reach out to others
- "I don’t deserve love". - I deserve love; I can have love.
- I am a bad person. - I am a good (loving) person.
- "I am terrible" - I am fine as I am.
- "I am worthless (inadequate)" - I am worthy; I am worthwhile.
- "I am shameful" - I am honorable.
- "I am not lovable" I am lovable.
- "I am not good enough" - I am deserving (fine/okay)
- "I deserve only bad things". - I deserve good things.
- "I am ugly (my body is hateful)" I am fine as I am
- "I do not deserve . . ." I can have (deserve)
- I am stupid (not smart enough). I am intelligent (able to learn).
- I am insignificant (unimportant). I am significant (important).
- "I am a disappointment" I am okay just the way I am.
- "I deserve to be miserable" - I deserve to be happy.
- "I am different, I don’t belong". I am okay as I am.
- "I should have done something". I did the best I could.
- "I did something wrong". I learned (can learn) from it.
- "I should have known better". I do the best I can (I can learn).
- "I should have done more" - I did as much as I could
- "I am untrustworthy". - I am trustworthy
- "I cannot trust myself". - I can (learn to) trust myself.
- "I cannot trust anyone" - I can choose whom to trust.
- "I cannot protect myself" - I can (learn to) take care of myself.
- "It’s not okay to feel and show my emotions". I can safely feel and show my emotions.
- "I cannot stand up for myself" - I can make my needs known.
- "I cannot let my anger out" - It is safe for me to express my anger appropriately
- "I am not in control". - I am able to centre myself to stay now in control.
- "I am powerless and helpless". - I now have choices.
- "I cannot get what I want". - I'm able to fulfill my needs. It is safe for me to ask for help.
- "I am a failure, I will fail". I trust myself and I'm confident that I can succeed.
- "I cannot succeed" - I belief in myself
- "I have to be perfect and please everyone" - I can be myself and make mistakes.
- "I cannot stand it" - I can handle it.
- "I am inadequate" - I am capable.
Write down your own disempowering beliefs and transform them into empowering ones. This is an amazing chance to identify them and let go of negative beliefs so that you can be in the driving seat of your vehicle through life. Identify the limiting beliefs you have about yourself. What do you believe? Create your own list and be darn honest for this is your chance to identify and let go of your disempowering beliefs.
After finishing the list of your limiting beliefs simply decide to change them by creating a new set of beliefs that contains desired character traits and values that will support you in all life endeavors from now on.