A Newborn's Conversation with God.
A baby asked God, "They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?
The child further inquired. "But tell me, here in heaven I don't have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy." Again, the small child asked, "And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don't know the language?"
God said, "Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."
"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"
God said "your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray." "Who will protect me?"
God said "Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life
"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."
God said "Your angel will always talk to you about me and will teach you the way to come back to me, even though I will always be next to you."
At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked
"God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel's name"
God said, You will simply call her "Mom".
M - My
O - Only M - Mentor
The first year of looking after a baby can be an intensive and challenging time as you adjust to a new pattern and the demands and the delights of a new baby. It is also a magical journey, as your teeny tiny miracle grows and changes at a rate unsurpassed during any other period of human development.
You have witness a miracle, your body nourished your baby for 9 months and then accomplished a physical feat unlike any other. In our western culture we have adopted the “ super mom” mentality - you get back to your regular and new routines as soon as possible. Partners generally take 1 to 2 weeks off which is helpful, however, when they go back to work you are on your own. Visitors are coming to see your new baby - and now not only are you figuring out motherhood, but have the pressures of being a hostess. Everyone around you is very well intended, however, you need time to recover and need help to achieve this recovery.
Long time ago it was a common practice that an experienced mother or woman, who had a great deal of knowledge on postnatal matters through her own experiences, looked after the new mother and baby.
In earlier years it was tradition in our western world and it still is in some countries, like Asia, Africa and India, that women are expect to rest for 30 days after childbirth and not to leave their home for any reasons. The only visitors who came into the house where people who are there to take care of the new mother and her baby, to look after other children, prepare food, cleaning the home, and allowing the new mom to rest.
This rest is needed to compensate not only for the birth but the nine months of pregnancy. The emphasis during this time is not on strike bed rest, rather on nourishing foods, gentle activity, sleeping when the baby sleeps, and lots of kiss and cuddles with the new baby. Now, your body is producing milk and adjusting to new hormones, sleep deprivation, and new routines.
In many cultures, it is expected that during the postpartum period women rest and bond with the baby; while her family takes care of all the other daily responsibilities primarily providing nourishing meals.
Although we may not be so fortunate to have family and friends tend to all our needs for the first three month after childbirth we can ensure that we are eating well, asking for help, employ a postnatal Doula and prepare us well for the time after childbirth.
Postnatal Recovery - Be Prepared
Most women prepare them well for childbirth and have a Birth Plan. Most new Moms have also a kind of "baby plan", but a majority of new mothers don't have a plan for themselves, a plan hat focuses on THEM, a plan for the days and weeks that follows child birth that keeps them on the track for a balanced recovery physically, hormonally and spiritually.
Having a recovery plan in place may reduce the probability of being affected by pregnancy related mood disorders which affects many mothers after birth. It is wise for pregnant women to make a plan for themselves for the postpartum recovery period BEFORE they give birth.
Throughout pregnancy women take care of their bodies with the intention to take care of the unborn child. After the birth of their child women need to understand that is important that they must take care of themselves because their body, mind and spirit are undergoing an intense change. This is why a recovery plan for the postnatal period, created before childbirth is most useful to prevent or reduce mood disorders.
How to ensure a full postnatal recovery:
In the weeks leading up to the babies’ arrival finish any loose ends and tasks you have been postponing.
- Work related
- Maternity leave paper work
- Baby gear and supplies
- Clean and organize your house
- Wash the baby clothes
- Make and freeze meals
- Organize email/phone contacts for birth announcements
- Ask friends and family ahead of time to wait with their visit or keep visits brief in the first few weeks
Most family and friends want to help but don’t necessarily know what you need. Asking for help is challenging for most people, it does not mean you are incapable or not a good mom if you ask for help. In many other cultures is just expected that family and friends pitch in. Our culture has become one isolation and independence. It takes a village to raise a child.
Ask your friends and family to:
- Clean your house
- Prepare food
- Take the baby or your other children for a while
- Get groceries
- Do laundry
- Take dogs for a walk
Ask professionals for help with:
- Breastfeeding issues
- Health concerns for you or baby
- Sleep issues
You will have heard a million times during your pregnancy sleep when your baby sleeps. This is very true, although hard to do. When exhaustion sets in, you find your self staring at a laundry pile or dirty dishes. And before you know it you are cleaning your house, making phones, and doing anything but sleeping. This is a great opportunity to learn to Let Go. Its easier said than done, it takes practice but it can be achieved. Your dishes will wait for you, just sleep if you have the opportunity. It will make you feel more like your self and a better mom.
- Eat regular nourishing foods.
It is important to make sure that you maintain a healthy and nutritious diet with the right kinds of foods during the weeks and months following the birth. This is because your body is still recovering from a substantial trauma. If you are breast-feeding, you'll need additional calories and a good fluid intake too. Ensuring that your calorific intake is balanced is also important.
While a weight loss diet at this stage is inappropriate, choosing what, how and when you eat will establish good eating habits that will support any weight loss effort later.
- Enjoy your postpartum bubble. You will be amazed how quickly your day will go, and you will relieve the only thing you did was stare at your beautiful baby. Cherish this time.