The first few weeks of motherhood can be a physical and emotional roller-coaster, particularly if this is your first baby. At this time it is important to feel understood and supported. An experienced and sympathetic person who can listen to your feelings and worries can be an enormous relief. I can provide valuable support in helping you to understand the emotional changes involved in becoming a new mother and can advise on whether you might benefit from counselling or specific therapies such as Homeopathy should you feel a little down or depressed.
I offer to answer any questions you may have. Please feel free to contact me should you have any further questions about how I could support you as a new mother.
I offer a very flexible support service. My aim is to support you and your partner in the day to day running of your home from the first day and for up to six month after your baby arrives allowing you precious time with your newborn.
I believe that the most important role of a postnatal doula is that of listening and being there providing companionship if wanted. Many postnatal women just need someone to talk to, to go over their birth, answer questions and give them emotional support.
Being at home with a newborn all day by yourself can feel quite isolating. So why not joining a postnatal mother child support group.
Getting out and About
You will have the opportunity to share your experiences with others in the group. It is amazing how much you can learn from other mothers and how sharing your experiences of caring for a new baby can increase your confidence and self esteem.
This group is best attended in approximately the first three months after birth, generally not before six weeks, as babies are often not ready. If you have had a cesarean section, it is best to start after you have had your six-week check up. Talk to me if you are unsure about when it is best for you to begin.
- I will talk every week about a new topic, all related to the post partum time from mother and child and the journey into parenthood.
- Homeopathy & Paediatrics for Parents – what do you need to know about minor childhood illnesses, how to prevent or treat them safely and when you need to contact your doctor.
- Topics such as colicky babies, teething problems, and fussy- demanding babies, “crying” babies, sleeping difficulties (child and parents), child development, diet, digestive problems are all covered.
For further possible topics see also: Parenting circle
A New Dad Needs help Too
Becoming a first time father nowadays is pretty daunting. In the old days, it was all 'women's work'. Now a new dad is expected to be a 'new man' - all loving and caring and supportive as well as handy with the nappies.
But what if you don't feel ready, or 'qualified' for your new position in life? There you are, with a huge responsibility for this new bundle of life, but who's looking at you? Becoming a parent for the first time is just as momentous for the new dad as for the mum - but all the attention is on the mother and baby. The new dad is often just left to get on with it.
The Joys of new Fatherhood
Entering fatherhood for the first time demands a lot of changes from you. You have to switch your mindset from 'regular guy' to 'dad', for instance. And you may notice you are not getting enough sleep and that your sex life has gone out of the window for a while.
Suddenly you need oodles of patience. Patience when your new baby cries for no reason you can discover. Or wakes you up in the middle of the night. Or demands attention from mum just as you are about to settle down for an intimate evening. Patience, a level head and calm coping is what you need when you become a new father.
Fortunately, becoming a new father is a great adventure. The early days may seem a little tough (did I mention the patience bit?). You may feel less naturally 'connected' to your baby and might even feel a bit like a spare part.
But it's not so much what you are right now (although you're far more important than you might think), it's what you are going to be to your son or daughter in the future as they set out on their journey in life.
Dads often say that they struggle to be involved with their baby in the first few months after the birth because the mother is totally focused on meeting all the needs of their new child.
She rightly feels that she is the best person to do the job but you need to play a part in order to start establishing a relationship with the baby.
If you don’t get the chance to bond with your child in those first few months you can quickly start to feel useless – an emotion which can become very corrosive in a family already under stress.
Carrying, bathing and dressing the baby are all ways of achieving close physical contact, and changing nappies is an intimate ritual of care that all men should take part in – especially if you want to please your partner!
Feeding is another way to help, once the mother feels she has had enough time to create a bond – usually three to four weeks. If the baby is bottle fed you can then take on some of the feeding routine, or a breastfeeding mum can express milk for you to feed in a bottle.
The other assistance that your partner will really appreciate, is helping to get your baby back to sleep when they wake up crying at night. Many men find themselves sleeping on the couch to be fresh for work in the morning – but remember that your partner also has a tough day ahead and really needs back-up in those long dark hours.
In short, the important thing is to show that you are willing to help, and sensitively take every opportunity to build up her confidence in you as a true partner in the care of your child.
This is a very popular group, so contact me early to secure a place for you.