Parenting with Confidence and Joy
- What do I do when my child...?
- How can I get my child to...?
- Why does my child...?
- When should my child be able to do...?
There are endless challenges in being a parent. We often find ourselves in unexpected places with no road map or shining light. Challenges we never imagined can instantly pop into our parenting arena.
Parenting confidence is essential to the most important job you’ll ever do. Be sure to equip yourself with the tools, resources, and support systems that work best for you. It’s a journey with limitless opportunities!
Would you like to:
- Feel more confident in your decisions, reaction and overall parenting?
- Feel that you are steering the ship rather that the ship steering you?
- Feel less frustrated by yourself and your kids?
- Respond with less anger and resentment?
- Cultivate win – win situations?
- Honour your child’s unique differences and perspectives?
- Develop a clear understanding of different development stages/ages and how to use this information to create expectations of yourself and your children.
- Maintain a general sense of well-being with your children more of the time?
I can help you learn about the many skills that are the foundation for healthy, happy families. Discover non – shaming discipline and how to implement appropriate limits, while creating positive interactions that enhance your child’s uniqueness and self –esteem. Develop routines and find new strategies for working with questions about child development and help you to understand what is in and out of the range of “normal”.
I can help you to make the connections between the historical roots of your own childhood to the ways in which you think about and parent your children. Your personal history and experience impacts and informs the degree to which you are fully present for, and helpful to, your children and teens. When you come to understand what drives your decisions and reactions, you are free to shift whatever is no longer working for you.
Together we can identify and implement the appropriate use of boundaries that empower all family members. Because many parents struggle to know and understand what appropriate boundaries are, they can be found shifting lines in the sand with their own children, never really communicating clearly and holding firm to expectations. In turn, children are often confused and unsure, never quiet feeling at ease. The parenting groups and sessions are an opportunity to learn about your own boundaries, so that you can be a healthy model for your children.
Parenthood is a Journey, not just a Destination. Being a parent is much more than becoming one
At the end of the day, confidence is the single most important aspect of how to approach parenting. Confidence does not by any means imply that you have all the answers, that you know what to do in every (or even most) situations, or that you ever stop learning.
What confidence means is trusting yourself to proceed in this remarkably challenging and rewarding endeavor with the inner knowing that you have what it takes, that you have appropriate resources on hand, that you understand your own self well enough to modulate, reflect, and be flexible.
I encourage moms and dads to trust their instincts, parent from the heart, use their innate sense of what is best for their children and learn about the pros and cons of all healthcare and parenting options. Living healthy is not an endpoint, but an ongoing journey.
No matter where you are on your parenting or holistic living journey, you are welcome to contact Gráinne - Freya at 091 87 1455. Contact me
Build Your Confidence as a New Parent
You've been nine months of pregnant and experienced the excitement and intensity of labor and the delivery itself. Surely that's the hard bit done with?
Then suddenly, it seems, you are back home with your baby. You are a new parent and you feel as if you don't know what you are doing. Where are the instructions?
It's just at this point that you can have a crisis of confidence.
Becoming a parent is an intensely intimate and private event. At the same time, today it is possible to quickly become inundated with opinions, pressures, advice, and options that can be confusing and overwhelming. Retreating to the privacy of your own inner world can be a good starting point for sorting out what is best for you, your baby, and your family.
Because there are so many choices involved, ranging from where and how to give birth, whether to circumcise a baby boy, whether to breastfeed, immunizations, cloth diapers vs. disposable, and on and on, the more preparation time you have, the better you will fare. Talk to as many parents as you can, and ask the questions you’re really interested in – even though they may not be the ‘mainstream’ topics.
If you’re concerned about the effects being new parents will have on your relationship with your partner, ask couples you know who have been through this phase how they coped with it. It’s really worth it to do the research!
Being a new parent can be tough. Suddenly feeling responsible for another life, maybe doubting that you are 'good enough' to be a new parent and adjusting to a new kind of life stretches the best of us. It's easy to assume that parenting will 'just come naturally.' But for many of us it's a huge shift.
One of the most important things you can do for your child is take good care of yourself.
There is no greater challenge and no greater gift than parenting our children. Like a garden, each family must be tended to feed the very best nutrients in order to thrive. The good news is that it never to late to do a little weeding and seeding so that you can create the unique garden that you wish to have. I can help you to develop a plan, as well as the tools, to make this happen.
Of course there are practical steps you can take to make life as a new parent easier. Consider recruiting help from family and friends and don't be shy to ask for advice or help from people who have been there before. And of course ask your hospital if they can provide any help such as expert guidance from people who can instruct you on feeding or changing. This sounds basic but it's amazing how many people forget these simple but effective steps.
Many new parents feel they should just 'know' what to do. Why? We all have to learn and become better at any new role we are given in life.
Some new parents feel as if they 'aren't good enough' or capable enough to cope with the sudden responsibility of being a new parent. As a new parent you are not supposed to 'be perfect' or to know everything. How could you? Here are some reassuring facts:
- It's natural to become tired, irritable, even bored looking after your baby sometimes-this doesn't mean you are a 'bad parent.'
- You won't be a 'new parent' for long-pretty soon you'll have a child not a baby.
- Everything changes - it's not for ever.
- There are pleasures and joys to parenting that you are yet to discover.